By Seth Williams
August 4, 2014
"I hope my kids grow up knowing that God is the center of our household. I hope they remember seeing an open Bible and I hope they remember us being intentional in loving others."
I first met Luke when we lived in San Diego. My wife, Kelly, and I were working with his wife, Lindsey, at our church. We all grabbed lunch together one day at Panera and now we're lifelong friends. I am incredibly thankful for Luke and his family. Luke is one of the most loving, faithful, and trustworthy friends. I deeply believe that my life is better by knowing him. We have started doing a yearly vacation trip with his family and our friends, the Andersons. They are like family to us. Luke has taught me a lot about living a life that glorifies Christ, while loving and leading his family in a very selfless way. I love Luke and how his story is evolving and hope it inspires you. This is one dude I'm incredibly grateful to call my friend. Luke lives in Fort Worth, Texas with his wife, Lindsey, and their kids, Sutton and Evie.
What's your favorite album of all time?
I don't know if I have a favorite of all time because what I listen to will often change. I can say what's been the most influential album in my life, the one that immediately came to mind, is Switchfoot's The Beautiful Letdown. After growing up listening to them I'll never forget seeing them for that tour in a little seedy bar in San Francisco. They went from Christian Contemporary to face melting rock band. I would never be the same after seeing them. I even handed Jon Foreman my band's (at the time) demo cd. Ha! Songs like Dare You to Move and Meant to Live to this day encourage me to live for something more and not of this world. It just never gets old.
What do you love about your city of Fort Worth and what does your family do for fun around town?
We love food and like to eat... some of our favorite spots are Fireside Pies, Rodeo Goat, Bluebonnet Bakery, Brewed, Velvet Taco... the list could go on and on. I think the greatest asset to this city is the Trinity Trail System. You can literally bike for miles and miles all over the city following the Trinity River. We love riding our bikes and being outside.
What's your favorite Forth Worth coffee shop?
Fort Worth has been slow with the fun, hipster coffee shops. I grew up in Santa Cruz, California where cool coffee shops were on every corner. It seems like there's only three coffee shops in all of Fort Worth. My favorite is more of a restaurant. It's called Brewed and their tagline is "The locals living room". I wish it was just a coffee shop, but they have a great bar, food, and atmosphere. Really cool place.
What's the most important part of your life?
Hmm... I guess it's more of three parts. The words that come to mind are faith, family, and community. These three things are sort of the cornerstones in our lives. Lindsey and I talk, think, and pray on these subjects often.
How does your faith in Jesus define who you are?
Faith is the one constant I can always come back to. I think it's super easy (and scary) to let the world define who we are. It's a constant fight. The times in my life when I've felt the most lost trying to define who I am always end up bringing me back to brokenness, and then praise, because of His grace.
Has having kids inspired you in new ways creatively? Has that helped you look at creativity in a new way?
I think in some ways it's hindered certain forms of my own creativity and inspired me in others. I used to be creative through writing music. I needed long periods of alone time and concentration (something I'm not able to get currently). I've been inspired though to look at life through my kids' eyes and strive to help them be creative in their imaginations through play. I love encouraging my kids to play instruments and sing even if they don't know how to quite yet. It's also super fun to be creative though play. Personally now I think I find my own creativity through many facets whether it's playing guitar, building a fort, growing a vegetable garden, restoring a piece of furniture, or coloring with my kids.
How did having children change the way you look at life and God and how has that challenged, grown, and strengthened your faith?
I can distinctly remember a time when I was having to punish my son for the way he was acting. So I was sitting there explaining to him that just like God wants us to obey Him and do the right thing, so I want him to honor, respect, and obey me as his dad. I let him know how much I loved him but that his actions, words, and decisions were hurting me. At that moment it was like a lightbulb went off in my brain. It was like God was teaching me right there through this experience with my son the way my relationship with Him works. It sounds so simple but it was a very humbling experience and helped me see such a beautiful picture of how I love my son more than words can describe and how I would do anything for him even when he messes up. That's just how God (our Father) loves us. It's through seasons that I change. As my kids experience different things and learn and grow, so I change in the way it affects my life as a dad and how I adapt with them. It's challenging but so amazingly beautiful how God uses our kids to strengthen our love for Him.
How do you see your faith play out in the work you do?
Being in an IT support/marketing role as well as within real estate, I'm in situations where I'm consistently helping people fix problems. It could be super easy to let things frustrate and affect my daily attitude. I really try to smile and patiently help people overcome their technology hurdles. It makes such a difference when dealing face to face with other people. My hope is that people see something different in me. That they can see I have a hope far greater than what this world can offer.
What's your greatest fear as a father?
I think my greatest fear is that I'm going to mess up my kids. I'm afraid that at times I can be too harsh and that I expect too much from them. Fortunately for me, I have an amazing wife who is a great mother and who helps me realize in those moments to chill out. They're just kids.
What's your greatest dream as a father?
There's this beautiful scene in one of John Eldredge's books where John's son is surrounded by amazing, godly men that have molded and shaped him into who he is. They all go on a special trip together and the men use that time to affirm and speak truth into his son's life. The trip was specifically planned for that very purpose. I think my dream as a father is that my kids grow up surrounded by people that love them, affirm them, and speak truth into their lives. It would be such a dream to see my closest friends and family all pour love, wisdom, and affirmation into the lives of my kids and for them to be molded by that experience for the rest of their lives.
What in your life challenges and grows your faith the most?
The life lesson I learn time and time again that continues to rock me is that I can't be living with the "grass is always greener mentality". You know, the "once I get this accomplished then I'll be happy"? Or the "if only I had this then I can be better at doing that thing". It's so fleeting to pursue the things of this world and I've been challenged lately to just be content with all the many current blessings and talents I've been given for today.
How do you find time to spend with God? What does that look like for you?
It's tough man, but I think it can look different day to day. Some days it's early mornings while I drink my coffee; others it's the drive into work. It can be a bike ride experiencing His beauty outdoors. For me, finding solitude in those moments and making sure I'm able to get that time is key.
What do you think your role is as the spiritual leader of your home?
I feel like growing up in the church may have skewed my view a bit on this. I know the churchy answer but what this looks like in my home is more of trading off of encouragement between me and my wife within different seasons in our lives. I would love to say that I'm always the consistent one in pointing my wife and kids toward Christ but the truth is, sometimes my wife is encouraging me and my kids because of the growth happening in her life and at other times it could be me encouraging them. I hope my kids grow up knowing that God is the center of our household. I hope they remember seeing an open Bible and I hope they remember us being intentional in loving others.
What kind of legacy do you want to leave behind for your children?
I come back to a conversation I had with my Dad many years ago. We were having our weekly life, religion, politics discussion at the family dinner table and I remember him telling me some very simple, wise words that my mind comes back to often. "There are many things in life you can get caught up and wrapped up in; but in the end all that matters is that you love people". I think that's the legacy I want to leave behind. I want my kids to know that I loved people well.
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